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Christian Lessons|I Got Great Christian Audio Books That Will Change Your Life
Jun 2nd
I Got Great Christian Audio Books That Will Change Your Life
Hi my good friend, I’m glad to see you are interested in Dr. Kennys Christian audio books. Like I said before you can see him in action at my website www.baptistcalvary.com and see if you like how he teaches. I think you will be well pleased with the baptist sermon videos on my website. The top ones are the newest videos and they get older as you go down.
The Christian audio books are a great addidtion to your video bible library. You will also find some really good books that he wrote also. If you are really serious about learning about Jesus Christ then you will do yourself justice to add these to your resource center.
There is a section for you if you are new to the faith and need to build your foundation in the Word. The new convert section will lead you to a great website that will put you through some good solid Bible lessons for free. There are also bible lessons for those who know the basics but just need to study.
I really do think you will love the baptist sermons that you can watch right now for free, all you have to do is goto www.baptistcalvary.com and get your church online if you don’t want to get out, just watch them here for free.
Do you have children? If you do you will find some good resources for them also. There are games and really good bible studys you can get through Masters Club & Patch the Pirate. You will find it in the youth section of my website. Thanks and God Bless
Hello, and thank you for coming to my article. First my name is Anthony and I want to help spread the gospel of Jesus Christ by the power of the internet. If you look at my website you will find great video sermons by my friend Pastor Kenny Kuykendall. He is a powerful speaker and man of God. You will also find Bible studies for new converts to the faith. There are also free bible studies so you can build your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. So go check it out my friend. www.baptistcalvary.com
Christian Faith|How Attending a Christian College Can Change your Life
May 30th
How Attending a Christian College Can Change your Life
Spring is the time of year when many high school seniors are either rushing to complete college applications or waiting to hear from their college or colleges of choice, living in hope that the financial aid award will be sufficient, and moving into the final phase of the serious deliberation that leads to choosing a college.
Every part of the college search process is important, and all the information gathered is useful to gain the fullest understanding about which college fits best with a prospective studentâs interests and plans. Understandably, those students and their parents want to know about the rigor of academic programs, the quality and engagement of faculty, all curricular and extra-curricular options, and the campus community atmosphere. In addition, one area admissions counselors are increasingly asked about is âoutcomes.â How does a Christian college prepare a student for life after college? What are the benefits of attending and graduating from a Christian College versus the financial cost?
A recent Christianity Today article by Steve Henderson, President of Christian Consulting for Colleges and Ministries, Inc., addresses an outcome that should be of particular interest to Christian students and parents. In the article, titled âA Question of Price versus Cost,â Henderson makes the following points: Because âthe college years are one of the most significant times in a studentâs search for identityâ¦the literature and the researchâ¦suggest a strong link between a young personâs choice of a college and their short-term and long-term commitment to Christian faithâ¦The results of nearly 25 years of research consistently reveal that those who do not attend a Christ-centered college will experience a decline in religious values, attitudes, and behaviors during collegeâ¦More than 52 percent of incoming freshmen who identify themselves as born-again upon entering a public university will either no longer identify themselves as born-again four years later or, even if they do still claim that identification, will not have attended any religious service in over a year.â And one final quote from that article, âThe bottom line is this: if the past is a fair indication of the future, at least half and possibly over two-thirds of our kids will step away from their faith while attending non-Christian colleges and universities.â
Based not only on research but also on Hendersonâs personal experience with a daughter who attended a non-Christian college and lost her way spiritually for about a decade, Henderson asks parents to consider whether they can afford not to send their child to a Christ-centered college. A college education is a big-ticket item, no matter what type of school is chosen. Henderson encourages families to look closely at and give due weight to the potentially life-long effect of whichever college community is chosen â Christian or secular. College years are a time of serious examination of personal faith. Students at colleges that arenât supportive of Christian faith can become confused, at best, or more likely, skeptical of the Christian teaching of their youth.
Henderson also emphasizes early in his article, âI neither mean to imply that Christian colleges are perfect places with perfect people, nor that Christian students can never emerge from secular schools with strong Christian faith still intact. Neither statement is true. What I do know, however, is that immersion in a Christ-centered residential, educational community is an incredible opportunity for Christian young men and women who want to learn and grow spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, etc.â
Christian high school students, as well as those who know and counsel them, should give serious consideration to the benefits of living and learning in this kind of college environment. At its best, education at the collegiate level should begin an honest evaluation and infusion of both faith and scholarship. The dual influence of academic discipline that creates the ability to think critically balanced with moral and spiritual integrity help prepare Christians to positively impact a global society.
Christian college graduates attend some of the most prestigious graduate schools in the country and around the world. They go on to work in inspiring careers after graduation. At least one is in Baghdad assisting the Constitutional Drafting Committee in Iraq. Others are members of Harvardâs medical school faculty or are practicing medicine. They work for the top companies or have started successful businesses of their own. Others have chosen to work to develop sustainable agriculture in developing countries, aid in humanitarian relief and poverty reduction or serve in the top levels of our countryâs government.
The academic rigor of the top Christian colleges is leavened by the incorporation of faith and spiritual discipline that will produce the next generation of Christ-lead and inspired servant leaders that our culture cries for.
With those potential outcomes in mind, Christian high school students should learn as much as possible about the numerous fine Christian colleges and universities throughout this country. Preliminary information is available on the web at college search sites such as CCCU.org and Christiancollege.com. Also, sign up for college mailing lists. College mailing lists are a great resource, as you only need to sign up once to start receiving helpful information throughout the year. Also, remember to schedule time to visit each campus that seems like a good fit â including an overnight stay in a resident hall. Visiting a college campus in person and sleeping over helps students solidify if a school is a good fit by finding out what itâs like to live, as well as study, there.
The college years are a unique time in life for the formation of habits of the heart and mind and relationships that will shape life for years to come. Students (and their parents) should consider a college that offers serious academic and personal preparation for life â along with a framework of people and programs that nurtures and strengthens Christian understanding and commitment.
Nancy Mering is Director of Admissions at Gordon College. Gordon College is a nationally-ranked, four-year, nondenominational, liberal arts Christian college on Bostonâs North Shore. For more information on the programs and campus life at Gordon College, contact the Office of Admissions at 866-464-6736 or visit http://www.gordon.edu
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Christianity|Understanding the Christian Way of Life
May 30th
Understanding the Christian Way of Life
The Christian way of life is the pillar and support of the truth and should be concerned about congregational purity. The entire life course of a faithful Christian is actually governed by faith, enabling them to overcome obstacles that would hinder their service to the true God. The Christian congregation serves as a “pillar and support of the truth,” preserving the purity of the truth, defending and upholding it. (1 Tim, 3:15)
The Christian way to upholding the truth is especially important when those entrusted with oversight in the congregation are able to handle the “word of the truth” aright. Proper use of God’s Word enables True Christians to combat false teaching in the congregation, instructing “those not favorably disposed; as perhaps God may give them repentance leading to an accurate knowledge of truth.”
The disciple James wrote: “who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show out of his fine conduct the works with a meekness that belongs to wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth.”
The Christian way to seeking true understanding is through prayer to God: “Give me understanding, and I shall keep Your law; Indeed I shall observe it with my whole heart. The righteousness of Your testimonies is everlasting; Give me understanding, and I shall live.” (Ps 119:34, 144) This is the right Christian motive. The apostle prayed for the Colossian Christians that they might be “filled with knowledge of God’s will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding in order to walk worthily of the Lord.” (Col 1:9-10)
For the Christian congregation to be “a pillar and support of the truth,” the Christian members thereof must, through fine conduct, manifest the truth in their lives. (Eph 5:9) They have to be consistent and undeviating in right conduct, as if “girded about with truth.” (Eph 6:14) Besides maintaining personal purity, Christians must be concerned about congregational purity. When emphasizing the need to keep the Christian congregation clean from the defilement of lawless persons, the apostle Paul wrote: “Purge out the old leaven, that you may be a new lump, since you truly are unleavened. For indeed Christ, our Passover, was sacrificed for us. Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, nor with the leaven of malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.” (1 Cor. 5:7-8)
By God’s helping with our Christian way, one can come to an “understanding heart,” that is, to learn right motive and also be able to discern bad motives, one’s own or those of others (Prov 8:5), and by adhering to right motivation can avoid being distracted, misled or sidetracked into a devious and foolish course, and instead can be upright and head straight for one’s goal. (Prov 15:21)
What it means to follow the Christian way is this: Jesus extended the invitation to be His follower, saying: “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.” (Matt 16:24) Those who are true Christian have full faith that Jesus is God’s specially Anointed One and only begotten Son, the Promised Seed who sacrificed His human life as a ransom, was resurrected and exalted to the right hand of God, and the one who received authority to subdue his enemies and vindicate God’s name.(Matt 20:28) Christians view the Bible as the inspired Word of God, absolute truth beneficial for teaching and disciplining mankind.(Matt 17:17) and (2 Tim 3:16)
More is required of true Christians than mere confession of faith through the Christian way. It is necessary that belief be demonstrated by works. (James 2: 17, 26) Born as sinners, those who follow the Christian way and repent, (turn around) dedicate their lives to God’s worship and service, and submit to water baptism.(Matt 28:19) From then on they keep themselves clean from fornication, and idolatry. (Acts 15:20, 29) They strip off old personalities with their fits of anger, obscene talk, lying, stealing, drunkenness, and “things like these,” and bring their lives into accord with Bible principles.(Gal 5:19-21)
Peter wrote to Christians, “Let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a busybody in other people’s matters,” (1 Pet 4:15) Our Christian way is to be kind and considerate, mild tempered and long-suffering, lovingly exercising self-control. (5:22-23) Christians provide and care for their own and love their neighbors as themselves. (1Tim 5:8) and (Matt 22:36-40) The main identifying quality by which true Christians are recognized is the outstanding love they have toward one another. “By this,” Jesus said, “all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love among yourselves.” (John 13:34-35
Christianity is the way of the truth (2 pet 2:2) and those who assist others in furthering the interests of the Christian way become “fellow workers in the truth.” (3 John
The entire body of Christian teachings, which latter became part of the written Word of God, is the “truth” or the “truth of the good news.” Adherence to or ‘walking’ in this truth is essential for an individual to gain salvation. (Rom 2:8 2, Cor 4:2, Eph 1:13) In the case of those who conduct themselves aright, the truth, the conformity of their Christian ways to God’s Word and the actual results of their course, testifies to the fact that they are examples worthy of imitation.(3 John 11-12)
True Christians imitate Jesus’ example as the Great Teacher and Faithful Witness of God. (John 18:37) “Go make disciples of people of all the nations, teaching them to do the same things I taught you to do,” is their Leader’s command, and in carrying it out Christians urge people everywhere to put their hope and confidence in God’s Kingdom. (Matt 28:19-20)
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Christian Faith|Living a Victorious Christian Life
May 30th
Living a Victorious Christian Life
For all of my Christian years I prayed for a spirit of honesty but was never able to get it until I came in full contact with my human frailty. As I interact with my weakness as a Christian and humanity and that outside of Christ there is truly no life and truth, but simply that we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God and that it is simply and purely by his grace that we live – until then, I was not able to be truly open and honest.
Having come face to face with my sinfulness as person, though redeemed by Christ, I am able to be unashamedly honest is most areas of my life, particularly those that are of crucial importance, especially as it relates to an interactionary life with public.
Confronting weakness and acknowledging it as well as the practice of restraint, I have found to be the greatest weapon in fighting battles that are not waged in the natural but in fact impact the natural.
This confrontation with my weaknesses have enabled me to practice integrity and honesty as much as I am able in a given moment and through this practice, I have been strengthened in my faith and in some aspects of overcoming temptation.
Where as in those moment where I questioned the validity of the Christian Faith, and to my surprise found it wanting, not as a measure of its founder, but as a measure of those who practice it, I can now honestly say that I am proud to be a Christian and I consider the Christian faith, not to be among the greatest, but to be the greatest. With all of its perceived faults, it is to me the faith to be, the faith of all seasons. I am glad I am a Christian, and what I also found out is that there is nothing wrong with Christianity. The problem lies with its adherents.
Inherently, the Christian faith requires a certain exclusive commitment that most if not all of its followers find difficult to fulfil. But that’s the beauty of the faith. The process of trying, the refining as gold and silver is refined to bring out the purest quality jewels.
And so we who call ourselves Christians are like diamonds in the rough, gold and silver being refined by fire. As we are refined, our impurities are filtered out, as we are dealing with humans and not stones whose ways are ingrained and sometimes harder than granite, it is understandable that there will be many blunders.
Through the process of refining also, it is to be noted that it is not all who call themselves Christians will make it to the finish product, some will falter along the way unfortunately and some will be destroyed. Those who make it to the end however are those who have chosen to endure the hard sufferings and trials associated with obeying the faith.
Some will say that it is impossible to live the faith and so will chose their own path or their own way of expressing the faith, hence the many divisions and heresies.
The Christian faith I will reiterate is not an easy life to live, but it is possible to live it in a way that is pleasing to God and Christ.
The two greatest blunders of those who enter the faith are
1. Those who claim that it is impossible to live up to the requirements of the faith.
2. Those who fail to acknowledge the human element – that of inherent frailty and weakness.
The greatest way to overcome this I have found out is to:
1. (In response to the first point ) – Simply commit to the faith. Where there is a will there is a way. If a person is seriously committed to something or someone, there is absolutely no way that anyone can deter that commitment.
We fail to commit however because we believe that we cannot live up to the commitment. Honestly however, if one is truly committed, several mountains would have been crossed in one giant leap. Contemporary Christians however fail to commit, for one reason or the other.
2. The second way to overcome the second hurdle is simply to adopt an attitude of honesty and reliance on Jesus. One would think that honesty is second nature to Christians, it should be but it’s not. Honesty and truth are foundations of the Christian faith and there is no compromise where those two virtues are concerned in the eyes of God. If we simply adopt an attitude of honesty and confession, we’d have confronted our weakness and frailty, thereby taking away the power of the temptation and the frailty or weakness. If we acknowledge that we are humans and that we are subject to failures then we will seize to rely on ourselves and to rely on God instead.
In this age of individualism, relying on God is not popular; however the Christian that would be serious about their faith cannot give in to the spirit of humanism. The Christian must acknowledge that there is no way he can expect to live the Christian life victoriously without complete reliance on God. The Christian must learn to say daily, “By His Grace…”
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5 Ways to Add Years to Your Life
May 29th
5 Ways to Add Years to Your Life
Next time you’re asked to choose between soup and salad, go for salad
+2 years
Italian researchers found that eating as little as one cup of raw vegetables daily can add two years to your life. Why raw? Cooking can deplete up to 30 percent of the antioxidants in vegetables. To eat your quota, fill a ziplock sandwich bag with chopped red and green peppers, broccoli and carrots. Toss the bag into your briefcase, along with a packet of salad dressing – the fat will boost your body’s absorption of certain nutrients.
Learn the Law of Lard: the fat you carry today could kill you tomorrow
+3 years
Researchers at the University of Alabama, in the US, discovered that maintaining a body-mass index of 25 to 35 can shorten your life by up to three years (excess body fat raises your risk of diabetes, heart disease, stroke and colon cancer). If you’re allergic to exercise, sweat with your significant other. A study by Duke University, in the US, shows that sedentary men are 50 percent more likely to work out three times a week if their partners participate.
Eat nuts and extend your expiry date
+3 years
When researchers at Loma Linda University, in the US, tracked the lifestyle habits of 34 000 Seventh-Day Adventists – Christian conservatives famous for their longevity – they discovered that those who munched nuts five days a week, earned an extra 2.9 years on the planet. Pick up a bag of mixed nuts that includes all five key nuts, including walnuts, which are usually left out. Aim to eat 60g a day.
Never forget that your buddies have your back – even when it’s hunched over from osteoporosis
+7 years
In a study of seventy somethings, Australian researchers found that those with the largest network of friends had the longest lease on life. For the average guy, this could add up to seven additional years of existence. Yes, some buddies may encourage risky behavior from time to time but friendship ultimately provides more protection than peril. So try to learn a few new faces at work, trade training tips at the gym or simply say ‘hey’ to that neighbor you’ve never met. You can all thank each other later.
Repeat after us: ‘There is life after retirement’
+7 years
Or at least that’s what you’d better believe if you want to live that long. In a Yale University study of older adults, people with a positive outlook on the ageing process lived more than seven-years longer than those who felt doomed to deteriorating mental and physical health. Already envisioning decades of decrepitude? Volunteer for a cause you’re passionate about: selfless actions can put a positive spin on life and distract from unhealthy obsessing, reports a study in Psychosomatic Medicine.
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Lamb’s Book Of Life!
May 28th
Lamb’s Book Of Life!
If there is a symbolic-methphorical- and non-literal book in the New Testament, it has to be the book of Revelation. It rivals the book of Daniel in the Old Testament for symbolism and those two books are the fundamentalist and end times folks favorite book- bar none! However, I simply want to address one minor point- the so-called Lamb’s book of life.
>Revelation 21:27 says only those whose names are in the BOOK OF LIFE can enter into heaven.
>Revelation 20:12 reads, “I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: and the dead were judged out of those things which were written in the books, according to their works.
>Revelation 20:15 says, “Whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.”
Of course this is a metaphor or hyperbole. How BIG would such a book be anyway? What language would it be written in? Obviously this is just another of those DUALITY principles that tells us who is IN and who is OUT. If it existed it should be called the “Book of Meritocracy”: but it does not exist- literally.
If is so good to know that there’s no need for such a book because we are ALL in it. God is unconditional love and we were ALL sent into the world with a two way ticket. We’re going back home and our Creator knows ALL who were sent. After all, we were created by the Creator- whatever you choose to call God.
God is LOVE! And I Cor. 13 reminds us all that “LOVE DOES NOT KEEP A RECORD”. So, what’s the need for a book?
As a spiritual-futurist, I have a BA degree majoring in history. One cannot know the future without knowing the past which holds clues to what is on the horizon. The world is in such a rapid expansion of knowledge that we are close to entering a tipping point that will forever change earth as we know it.
Elaine Pagels examines the Book of Revelation and asks questions about its origin and importance. Who wrote the Book of Revelation, when, and why? What other “books of revelation”–Jewish and Christian–were written at the time but left out of the Bible? What accounts for the enduring appeal of this book during the past 2000 years, and even today? Series: Walter H. Capps Center Series [9/2008] [Humanities] [Show ID: 15114]
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Life Is A Box Of Chocolates … NOT! A Sermon On The Book Of Job
May 28th
Life Is A Box Of Chocolates … NOT! A Sermon On The Book Of Job
âWho is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge?â (Job 38:2)
Yes, Iâm quoting God from the book of Job, chapter 38, second verse – a book that Iâve finally decided, reluctantly, needs to be looked at.
I say reluctantly because itâs a depressing book, and depressing not only because it deals with the series of depressing events that befall the storyâs main character, but depressing too because the manâs search for an answer to his problems never gets a result that I find satisfying.
Iâm assuming that you are at least a little familiar the book of Job, but in case you’ve never read it let me give you a quick outline:
The book of Job is about a called Job (no surprises there) – a character who we are told at the beginning of the book was âa blameless and upright man who feared God and turned away from evilâ.
If you didnât get to meet the historical Job, youâve no doubt met his modern equivalents, and quite possibly in church. Heâs the sort of guy who is so pristine and respectable that he probably makes you squirm a bit.
Heâs the guy Winston Churchill described as having âall the virtues I despise and none of the vices I admireâ. Heâs just a little too clean and upright and Peter Perfect when we first meet him, but then everything falls apart for him.
All at once his children die, his livestock are killed, all his belongings are destroyed and he gets a terrible case of boils on his skin, and from this desperate position of physical and emotional desperation, Job begins his quest to get answers from God as to why such evil should befall a good man.
Itâs a story that, up to this point, resonates with us on a number of levels. Job suffers. We too have suffered. We might not have suffered to the same extent that Job suffered and yet we would like to have answers just as Job wanted to have answers.
And so as Job goes on his quest – searching for answers to the things that donât make sense in life, his quest becomes our quest, his questions are our questions, and if his God is our God, we look for his answer to become our answer.
Which is why it is so unsatisfying when we reach the climax of the story (some 38 chapters later) only to find that the answer God gives Job to his unjust suffering is some sort of riddle!
“Then the LORD answered Job out of the whirlwind and said: “Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge? Dress for action like a man; I will question you, and you make it known to me. “Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell me, if you have understanding. Who determined its measurements – surely you know! Or who stretched the line upon it? On what were its bases sunk, or who laid its cornerstone, when the morning stars sang together and all the sons of God shouted for joy?” (38.1-7)
For thirty-eight chapters we hear Job pleading his case with God:
âI would speak to the Almightyâ he says, âto argue my case with God.â (13:3)
And in Jobâs pain his prose degenerates into poetry (as indeed poetry has been described as prose with violence done to it) as he laments his inability to get an answer to lifeâs questions:
âWhere is wisdom to be found and where is the place of understanding? Humanity does not know the way to it. It is not found in the land of the living ⦠it cannot be gotten for gold!â (28:12-13,15)
Job rails, depressed and yearning for death:
âWhy is light given to him that is in misery, and life to the bitter in soul, who long for death but it comes not, and dig for it more than for hidden treasuresâ (3:20-21)
Job cries the cry of the human condition, without papering over the cracks in life with any glib clichés: And itâs that experience that I suspect we have all had, where the whole of creation seems to have gone into reverse – where instead of light appearing in the darkness, the light that we have been living in seems to be being increasingly eclipsed and enveloped by the darkness:
âWhen I looked for good, evil came; and when I waited for light, darkness cameâ (30:265)
And so Job cries out to God, not so much for relief, let alone a reversal of fortune, but simply for some way of making sense of it all, such that he can see that his pain is not meaningless.
And then God finally replies – out of the whirlwind God replies – but itâs not to be the reply we were hoping for:
“Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge? Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell me, if you have understanding. Who determined its measurements – surely you know! ⦔
Godâs tone seems cynical and aggressive, and God seems to completely fail to address the questions Job has raised. God resembles, in Job 38, a domineering school-teacher, giving a solid dressing-down to an errant schoolchild for having the temerity to ask too many questions.
âWho do you think you are, Job?â God asks. âAre you really the man to take me on over thisâ, God taunts!
And then over the succeeding two chapters, God parades in front of Job a whole series of weird and wonderful animals – hippopotami, ostriches and crocodiles, and a whole array of things in the created order that also donât seem to make any sense, and it all seems to be designed to belittle Job.
Itâs a passage that brings back to me one of my most disheartening memories of University, where a friend of mine asked (what was deemed to be) an inappropriate question to one of our lecturers.
It was Psychology I, and the lecturer had been lecturing us on Freud for a number of weeks, and on that particular day he had been going on for some hours, if I remember, on the subject of dream interpretation – telling us how whenever we dream, all the elements in the dream, no matter how innocent they might appear, are really all just symbols for sexual activity of one sort or another.
And my friend asked what I thought to be a quite legitimate question. She asked, âif all our dreams are really about sex, what about when weâre dreaming about sex? Are those dreams really symbolic of something else?â
And the lecturer went very silent, took his glasses off, stared directly at my friend and said, âGirly, youâre never going to get anywhere in this University asking questions like that!â And he then proceeded to dress her down with a series of statements that had nothing to do with the question sheâd asked, such that Iâm still not sure what his answer to that question really was?
It wasnât much of an answer, I felt, and when I listen to Godâs answer in the book of Job I find myself making the same response: It isnât much of an answer! And yet I can almost hear God speaking to me through the pages of this book saying, âWell ⦠youâve heard a lot worse!â
And indeed, I have heard worse, and so have you – glib, clichéd, superficial answers that pass themselves off as wisdom:
âDonât you cry now. God obviously needed your dad in Heavenâ; to which the obvious answer is, âwell, why would He when I need him down here?â
âOh but God obviously had a good reason for taking your grandma/your mother/your child/your puppy â¦â
âAnd donât you doubt that because doubting Godâs wisdom in these matters is a sin and you mustnât question the wisdom of the almighty.â
Weâve all heard that sort of dribble and (dare we confess it) weâve probably sprouted some of it ourselves at some point in our Christian walk.
And yes, the answers God gives to Job might not be what we were looking for, but certainly weâve heard worse and certainly we hear a lot worse in the book of Job itself.
Indeed, if you trudge your way through the entire book of Job youâll find that the vast bulk of it is made up of three cycles of dialogue between Job and his three âfriendsâ who are full of answers to lifeâs troubles.
The friends of Job are well drilled in Biblical theology. They know their Bibles and they know that the only reason you get punished is because you sin, and so they plead Godâs case very eloquently, pointing out to Job that he is a sinner and that if he is suffering, it must be something he has brought upon himself, and that even if he isnât aware of the particular sin that brought about his misfortune, he should stop living in denial and confess his faults in the hope that God might forgive him..
And itâs all very simple and itâs all very logical and it all makes sense, and itâs all a great load of rubbish so far as Job is concerned (and, it seems, so far as God is concerned)
Godâs response to Job might not answer all our questions but itâs certainly a step up from the glib and simplistic responses of Jobâs friends, and the other interesting thing about it, of course, is that while Godâs response to Job might not satisfy us, it did satisfy Job!
This in itself is significant, I think, and scholars do like to theorise as to why Job finds Godâs riddles so gratifying.
The general thought is that while Job doesnât get an intellectually thorough response, he is nonetheless spiritually and emotionally satisfied through the experience of Godâs presence. And this is as may be, but if we stand back and leave aside any psychological analysis of Job, it may be sufficient in itself to recognise that Job does get a response from God, regardless of the content of that response. For while the three friends see it as their role to speak in defense of God, it seems in the end that God is quite capable of speaking for Himself!
Job has his day in court, so to speak, and maybe that was all he needed. And maybe thatâs the real word of hope for us in all of this – that even though Godâs response to Job might not exactly work for us, there is assurance for us here that God does take our questions seriously – that God is not deaf to our questions, let alone to our suffering. God does take us seriously and God will ultimately engage with us, even if it be in Godâs own way, in Godâs own time.
So why does God allow us to go through the things that we go through? Well, the book of Job suggests to me that I can confidently leave God to answer that one for you for Himself!
That might not be the solution you were looking for, of course, any more than Godâs response to Job was exactly the answer you were looking for, yet we have to deal with life as it is and with God as God is, or as Job would put it:
âshall we accept good from the hand of the Lord and not evil?â (2:10) âThe Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lordâ (1:21)
First preached at Holy Trinity Dulwich Hill, October 2009
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Self Esteem: On Matters Of Trust And Faith In Creating What We Want Out Of Life
May 27th
Self Esteem: On Matters Of Trust And Faith In Creating What We Want Out Of Life
With this inaugural blog I am mindful of running the risk of opening a cosmic can of spiritual worms. So, I will stubbornly stay above the fray and opt out on debating the righteousness of any one set of spiritual beliefs versus another. I write this article hopeful it may engage your curiosity about the essence of creativity and its relationship to the mystical realm no matter where you fall on the “faith continuum.” I have no doubt that my experiences inside of as well as outside of traditional and non traditional houses of worship have influenced my spiritual beliefs. Moreover, this blog in large measure represents the fruits of my evolving artistic sensibilities inside and outside the treatment room. It is an outgrowth of my own search for truths about human nature, the universe, and what it means to apply these truths in the service of living well.
My working hypothesis is that mystical transformational processes are at the heart of the value of “being” and indispensable to the regulation of self esteem in a world rife with injustice and loss. Furthermore, it’s my contention that our purpose for “being” in the present, which I will term the only possible moment of creative possibilities, is to become enlightened as to our reasons “for being” or to say it a different way, our purpose for living. Finally, I contend that this process of self discovery or self creation requires trust in one’s self to process wisdom the universe gifts us, and faith in forces that operate inside and outside of us to render the unintelligible, intelligible.
It is as obvious as the noses on our own faces absent some sort of reflecting pools that we need selves to have self esteem. In truth many of us may have never even considered that we exhibit many different self states on any given day. Furthermore, many of these self expressions were conditioned earlier in life and unaltered by time and circumstances. This is due to real and/or imagined recollections of the threats to our physical safety and emotional security posed by questioning the validity and reliability of how our caregivers saw us and wished us to seem them. So when I use the concept of self I am thinking about nurtured autonomous capacities of self observation and self reflection in the service of processing, integrating and using in a coordinated fashion, what our senses receive. Without space these developmental milestones will not take place.
Like a good wide receiver in football who must create space and separate himself from the defensive player covering him so he can catch a pass, we must develop separation and space from how our caregivers wished for us to experience them and how they wished for us to experience ourselves and the world in order to create new and more flexible mindsets. It is imperative that we do so because otherwise, we will suffer painful consequences by not respectfully and considerately relating and responding to those in our immediate presence by virtue of being wedded to expectations shaped by a world of blacks and whites with very few shades of gray. Such idealized and simplistic notions degrade our capacities to enrich each other’s lives as if our individual limitations and flaws were antithetical to the concept of having and regulating self esteem. Furthermore, if we have learned that the creation of and use of space to sense and evaluate the world beyond the limits of the wisdom imparted to us by our role models could result in a loss of their love, hurtful judgments, or physical and/or emotional abandonment, then this process of self creation may to varying degrees be stunted. This is not a knock on anyone’s parents. It’s the respectful acknowledgement that we are all human, imperfect, limited and flawed. Thus, no one should be revered in such a manner.
The bottom line is that we need the freedom and operating space
to practice being, trusting and valuing our selves. To use an analogy this might be equivalent to trying to make sense of the world with our eyes if our faces are pushed up to a pane of glass. This is a gross form of blindness or loss of perspective. Or imagine being packed into a subway car like sardines during rush hour. You would lack the operating space to protect and promote your self interest should there be a sudden jolt or a boundary violation of some kind.
For example, I imagine that very few of us who do not possess the mentalities of a stunt man or woman would attempt to learn to fly an airplane as an unseasoned student if we feared that such mistake-laden learning the ropes might result in our instructors getting angry, disgusted and perhaps, parachuting out of the plane leaving us all alone and terrified with the overwhelming responsibility to fly and land the aircraft. These analogies are meant to drive home the point that the development of selves and self esteem does not happen in a vacuum and must take place within the context of supportive and trusted relationships.
I often liken psychotherapy to be a holding environment or to use a construction metaphor; the scaffolding while the patient’s personality is renovated. No matter how painful, self defeating and even self destructive can be the ways we live our lives they are the weight supporting beams or infrastructures for our personalities. We will not risk deconstructing our ways of being so that we can reconstruct how we experience and use these experiences to guide our actions without the security of knowing that these structures will not collapse. The trusted and valued psychotherapist is that scaffolding or weight bearing beams while we renovate the way history has shaped the unfolding of our stories. If there is one truth I hold very dear to my heart as a result of working in the field of helping others develop selves is that anxieties over non existence or the collapse of ones’ personality will most often supersede fears of death due to illness, injury or other accident of fate.
As much as the development of trust in our selves is critical to the growth of self esteem, since how this comes about remains much a mystery, we are forced to venture into unchartered waters on faith. I think about the mystical forces of creation as functioning like coalescing glue. Imagine for a moment wind borne asymmetrical scraps of paper lifted out of unrelated containers of some distance from each other somehow coming together to form coherent and cohesive documents of exact rectangular dimensions. This metaphor captures my utter amazement at the incomprehensible intelligence of the universe as it works through normal folks like you and me.
I still scratch my head at a loss to explain the mechanisms by which I intuit ideas that seemingly rise to the level of thought out of thin air. I am a very, small fish in a very big pond of artists of one sort or another who have described the creative process as “taking on a life of its own.” As a sports fan I often hear world class athletes speak about “being in the zone.” They often describe having a sixth sense of the events to unfold as if some inexplicable force outside themselves guide the outcome of events. It is not an original idea by no means that imagination is the soil within which new realities germinate. When I begin to reflect on these mysteries I recognize how dynamic are the boundaries between my self and others, the past and the present and even between parts of my self. These boundaries can be fluid and permeable and so fuzzy at times so as to temporarily disappear.
My perspective is that one degree of separation between our observing and experiencing selves, and between our selves and others makes a world of difference. It’s the difference between overcoming our inner resistances to adapting constructively to an ever changing universe and unhealthily tying up our creative energies in the service of resistance to living life on life’s terms. As you will readily see as I develop my thesis, suffering and loss are constant and often unpredictable companions no matter how well you learn to play this game of life by its natural laws. Still, those of us who grow in self esteem over the course of our lives do not forsake rich and meaningful attachments out of fear and anxiety even though our losses are inevitable, often irreparable, and unavoidable signposts that no matter what roads we travel will lead us to the end of our lives as we know it.
The good news is that what doesn’t kill us literally or figuratively makes us stronger. We become more resilient in our transcendent natures or to be put another way our abilities to experience ourselves as much more than any ephemeral attachment no matter how much we cherish our attachments. Thus we can grow to fear less, potential threats to our identities and are better able to fully engage our loved ones, vocations and hobbies. This is because “I” increasingly becomes one with the light of re inventive consciousness and it is this light that unmasks our illusions that our weaknesses, vulnerabilities and flaws are anything more than artificial and transient constructs parading in and out of our fields of vision. They are only as powerful as our investments in them as obstructions to our paths toward enlightenment. No matter how senseless, cruel, inexplicable, unjust, unpredictable and earth shaking are our personal tragedies necessity being the mother of invention, we can find in trust and faith in our selves movement towards an expansive sense of ourselves; a oneness with the infinitely creative, uncontrollable, uncontainable, ineffable and indescribable universe. This process improves our abilities to take what feels like a fatal shot to the heart and live to see and enjoy another sunrise.
For example, between one and two years ago I ended a relationship with a woman I had been dating for 3 ½ years whom I planned to marry. For 4-5 straight weeks I channeled my anger into fully engaging my grief. I was immersed in an ocean of tears. The water conditions ranged from choppy to hurricane-like. Sometimes I was able to keep my head above water and observe that despite my pain, anger, rage sadness, etc., I was fine. The world had not split off its axis and the warmth of romantic love would in all likelihood grace my life again. There were other moments I seemed to be drowning in the collective tears of so incompletely mourned losses. It seemed for the first time in my life I could comfort myself and crying lost its lost its lethal symbolic meaning that I had lost something so priceless as to not be able to recover and move on.
I cried before I saw patients at the start of the day, between patients and after my sessions ended. The energies liberated from the breaking of this attachment were awesomely powerful, primitively terrifying, and hard to contain, observe and make sense of. With great trepidation and fear of drowning I dipped my cup in this ocean of cryptic wavelengths on faith that something much greater than my self would put me back together and leave me more resilient, flexible, more tolerant of distressing experiences, less identified with what is ephemeral and more identified with what is infinite. Such was the case. After 5 weeks the storms subsided and I was free to pursue love more courageously than ever. At the writing of this blog about 15 months later I am soon to be married.
Now, I would have survived this experience one way or another Still, to give credit where credit is due I would not have survived as a wiser, more resilient, more grateful and more loving person if it had not been for the “otherness” of my analyst one degree removed from my self and one degree removed from what our resonating beings stirred up inside of her. Dr. L. offered me a container to help hold and process that which at times was too chaotic, confusing, distressing and crazy making to tolerate. Yes, I did say crazy making. This grieving experience riddled me with self doubts as I struggled at times to observe my self and process and reconcile feelings of helplessness, uselessness and worthlessness with my identity as a psychotherapist. My self doubts became occasions to anxiously regress back in time to derive a false sense of safety and security in identification with how my idealized parents of childhood viewed and treated me. To experience my self as weak, vulnerable and dependent rendered me temporarily incapable to trust, value and mobilize my self in the service of comforting my self and keeping perspective on my loss. In truth I was functioning rather well despite my emotional crisis; tears or no tears.
Dr. L. was my unsinkable buoy, my life jacket that anchored me in the present and reminded me that the hurricane-like state in side of me was not reflective of a life having been reduced to rubble by primitive and malevolent forces. Dr. L. was able to identify with my experiences without being drowned by them. She maintained the degrees of separation necessary to be able to contain, help me process that which was too distressing for me to contain, make sense of and deliver back to me in a more logical and manageable form that which helped me to reconstruct a wiser, better integrated, more grounded and secure sense of self. With Dr. L as my extended container, I took sensory snapshots of my experiences, observed them when possible, tolerated the frustration of not knowing, and patiently on faith let these snapshots develop in the dark room of “nothingness” until these energies coalesced into something and rose to the level of thought. Dr. L. nurtured me to grow and in opening her self up to what was revealed and was likewise, changed by the experience. My point here is that personal growth and change is a collaborative and inter subjective experience.
There is great wisdom in the old adage that people either move forward and expand their subjectivities or their relationship to space contracts and they move backwards. For those of us in varying states of contraction or to say it differently habitually engaged in learned acts that are self defeating and self destructive we may find life to be largely traumatizing, trust eroding and faith destroying. We may find ourselves becoming progressively amnesic about our connection to the mystical until we reach a point of no return. It has been my experience that when we forget our connections to the mystical we grow weary and restless over being trapped in our artificially claustrophobic containers. Suicide of many varieties are not conscious and deliberate or completed in a flash and yet, full proof in their lethality over time.
No matter how much we evolve in our wisdom about our selves and the workings of the universe it is my educated guess that the leading edge of uncertainties and unknowns will always outstrip our evolving efforts to make logical sense of these matters. So as much as the final frontier beckons us with promises of knowledge to help us master our fears and anxieties this may be the ultimate cosmic tease. What I am putting forth here is that somewhere over the rainbow of the most cataclysmic and sublime events are answers that explain how we fit into a logical and symmetrical universal order. An order that perfectly marries form with function.
I am thinking specifically about the spiritual conversions of quantum physicists who having chronicled their observations of the properties of subatomic particles. Many speak reverently of a natural order previously relegated to the realm of the supernatural. When bonds are broken and energies are released what is observed may be a function of one’s limited understanding of the dimensions of time and space as they relate to identifying the container or crucible of creation and what is or not is contained and transformed. Given that there are no clearly defined limits on our potential to grow in our trust and faith in our selves as architects and instruments of creation then our existential angst is a direct outgrowth of what will and will not unfold in the dark emptiness. This suffering can be attenuated but can never be eradicated. So, our existential angst of not knowing what will become of us during our lives and after we cease to exist in our skins is the suffering that both propels us forward towards a relationship with the mystical and pulls us backward in futile, self defeating and sometimes self destructive efforts to re-live the illusory safety and security of childhood. The times of our lives when we were deluded with notions of divine grandeur are not so easily relinquished.
Best case, acts of creation have never to my mind been better described than it was by one of the most widely acclaimed writers of the 20th century, Franz Kafka: “It is not necessary that you leave the house. Remain at your table and listen. Do not even listen, only wait. Do not even wait, be wholly still and alone. The world will present itself to you for its unmasking, it can do no other, in ecstasy it will writhe at your feet.” Worst case when dealing with the energies of traumatic recollections these same energies can feel like being enveloped by a Tsunami while not being the merciful recipient of a swift loss of consciousness. Having processed my experiences as a writer, psychotherapist and former athlete I have reached the conclusion that these processes are fraught with blood, sweat and tears. They can take us in equal measure to ephemeral breathtaking heights of exhilaration and ephemeral depths of despair. What strikes me as irrefutable that with each successive generation there are individuals and groups that make quantum leaps in our understanding of our complex relationships to each other on ever level of organization. It’s a way of saying how Leonardo Da Vinci, Sigmund Freud or even Bill Gates were way ahead of their times.
Before I end this article I’d like to thank the like minded folks who have been my guides on this spiritual journey. I have embraced the teachings of several Relational psychoanalysts who have integrated Buddhist principles in developing their theoretical orientation and practice techniques. I’d like to take this opportunity to thank them by name because without them this blog might not have been written. The first is Wilfrid Bion whom I consider to be “The father of spiritually based psychoanalytic practice. Bion has written that being with the creative process is the “closest we will ever get to God.” The second is Dr. Mark Epstein, whose writings ushered into the mainstream of psychoanalytic thought Buddhist psychological traditions, and the third is Seth Warren Ph.D, a colleague and former instructor who introduced me to Wifrid Bion’s writings. The thread that binds these three men together is the notion that trust in one’s self and faith in forces at work inside and outside of us are not mutually exclusive and indispensable to acquiring wisdom abut each other and the universe. This “giving birth” of new ideas cannot take place without the interdependence of two individuals mutually influenced by their unique perspectives or to use the analytic term, “inter subjectivities.
I invite my readers to enter into a dialogue with myself that will hopefully extend the limits of our understanding of and nurture the growth of our collective self esteem within the context of learning about our selves, each other and the universe at large. Where do you see yourselves fitting into this celestial tapestry? What are your ideas on self esteem and how they are or not influenced by spiritual ideas?
Mitchell Milch, LCSW is a psychotherapist in private practice in Ridgewood, New Jersey for the past 12 years. Mr. Milch’s areas of specialization include: Couples Therapy, Life Transitions; Divorce, Parent Education, Performance Anxieties, Addictions, and Mood Disorders. Mr. Milch maintains a website at www.healthymindsets.com that features many self help articles he has written.
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Slow Life is Confirmed. Tuscany Still the Perfect Place, Maremma is the Ideal Area for a Natural and Pleasant Vacation in Italy, With Wellness Good.
May 27th
Slow Life is Confirmed. Tuscany Still the Perfect Place, Maremma is the Ideal Area for a Natural and Pleasant Vacation in Italy, With Wellness Good.
Slow Life Is Confirmed. Tuscany Still The Perfect Place, Maremma Is The Ideal Area For A Natural And Pleasant Vacation In Italy With Relax, Wellness, Good Food And Good Wine
After almost 2 months from our last press release, we are pleased to confirm that Slow Life is starting to be consider by all customers on holiday. Tuscany region in Italy and Maremma area are the perfect “life style” to join the Slow Life.
If you are Italy and in Tuscany and pass by the famous spa of Saturnia why not lengthen your journey by only 9 kilometres and visit the medieval village of Semproniano. In the historical centre of the village you will find the delightful and charming hotel with only 8 rooms it’s Locanda La Pieve.
Particular attention is given to hospitality and details in this family run hotel. Each of the 8 rooms is different in colour and décor, but all have a private bathroom, individually controlled air conditioning, television, telephone and safe.
Furnishings, colours and details reminds one of the Tuscan tradition and the territory of “Maremma” to which the Locanda La Pieve belongs.
Hospitality, good food, relaxation and above all no stress are the characteristics of this happy island. Nature in this part of theworld reigns supreme: plants, flowers, wild orchids,birds, wild animals, starry skies and colours and perfumes all to
be discovered.
The Wild Animals Rescue Centre where injured animals from all over Italy arrive, the WWF oasis at Bosco dei Rocconi and the Monte Labbro Natural Park.
Furthermore it is possible to visit the volcanic-rock towns of Sovana, Sorano and Pitigliano. Three charming townships that seem to come straight from a fable book. And then Montemerano, Rocchette di Fazio, Roccalbegna, Santa Fiora and Amiata,
the mountain loved by the Buddhists who consider it magical and spiritual.
Let’s not forget another of life’s pleasures, good food,which cannot go missing in such a pleasant context.
In the morning, breakfast with genuine traditional flavours, cakes and jams, fresh bread and flavours of times gone by, are served inside the dining room where it can be enjoyed without haste or, weather permitting on the garden terrace.
Then if you wish to savour a pleasant dinner, you can choose from a variety of traditional Tuscan dishes, updated with competence and simplicity, together with a good glass of “Maremma” red wine.
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